An Aries man is initially lured by a Cancerian girl because she seems so appealingly
helpless and feminine (Note: I said she
later. Appealing and feminine she definitely is, no argument there.) She appears
to need his strong masculine shoulder to cry on, his fiery emotional support.
When the Moon Maiden gives a Ram her flattering, undivided attention, it
proves to him what he's always suspected - that no woman can resist him.
She'll cook for him, baby him, laugh at his jokes, add some pretty funny ones of
her own and generally make his life one long, sweet song of soothing serenity,
with comical lyrics. But the music he hears could be a prelude to a slowly growingfeeling of being smothered. As you well know, if you're at all acquainted She's worried about it. Because,her motto is: "Happiness can't buy money." The Aries man contemplatingHer moods he considers to be uncalled-for damp prisons of
with astrology, Rams do not like to be smothered - by blankets, authority or restriction
of any kind - not even by love. Smothered in attention is fine, but the
Aries male draws a line at having his freedom squeezed out of him. Now, it's
true that no one can squeeze away a man's freedom as painlessly and pleasurably
as a Cancerian girl. If she's subtle about it, as most Moon Maids are, a
Ram could find the trip on her romantic flying carpet a thrilling experience (she
has a deep-seated wanderlust hiding behind her homemaking knacks, you
know). However, if the Crab shows signs of beginning to cling too closely, the
Aries male may jump off the carpet, without a parachute, if necessary.
About her feminine helplessness: He'll sooner or later learn that it's somewhat
of an illusion - maybe someday when she incorporates her own bank, redecorates
a friend's house, runs for Congress or rescues a child from drowning in
the ocean, beating the lifeguard to the spot. Cancer is a Cardinal Sign, and
these women possess an amazing stamina and tenacity, along with all that
moonlight fragility. After the first shock has worn off, he'll probably admire her
for it. He admires any kind of strength, and she's far stronger than her timid
tears when he's hurt her feelings (which may be frequently) might indicate. He
could even fall more deeply in love with her when he discovers she's not all "sugar-
and-spice-and-everything-nice," since he essentially needs a woman who
will fight back with him now and then.
But other sour notes may threaten to spoil love's concert between these two
Sun Signs - like money. She has a pronounced compulsion to accumulate it,
maybe even paper the bedroom, kitchen and nursery walls with it (her three favorite
rooms). To her, financial security is synonymous with emotional security.
The two are inseparable. He likes money too, and can think of hundreds of exciting
uses for it, but stashing it away in a rusty old trunk in the attic or a bank
vault for a rainy day is not at the head of his list. To Aries, money is to spend (or
give away). His motto is: "Money can't buy happiness." Since they're both in
love and happy, who's worried about cash? She is.
a ring-around-the-rosy with a Moon Maiden should think about
that. Carefully. He still won't agree with it, but he should think about it.
It won't be long until he notices her moodiness. Of course, he's moody too,
but that's different and understandable. With Aries, everything is different and
understandable when they do it - also justifiable and permissible, as well as excusable.
(Remember, Aries is the adorable but totally self-centered symbolic Infant
of the zodiac.)
gloom, and it must be admitted that they are deeper, more indigo and longer
lasting than his. Sometimes it happens that a Ram cheers a girl Crab out of her
periodic Lunar melancholy with his sheer optimism. It makes him feel strong
and masculine, and gives her the emotional stability she needs. But there's a
danger that he may eventually revolt against a fluctuating depression he can't
fathom, if only because it frightens him into thinking that perhaps his self-made
Mars miracles don't have the power to swing the Universe he believed them to
have. Rather than face that horrible thought, he could split. He may not get too
far. She's kind of nice to come home to, and make up with - and who else
bathes his ego in such charming shades of lavender and soft green, with such silvery
sincerity? She's funny and tender at the same time, and eternally capable
of pulling him out of those holes he jumps into, head first. Besides, she bakes a
terrific blueberry muffin - and the chemical attraction between them is an added
attraction. It might not have been what first drew them together, the initial
interest might have been based on other things . . . but after a while it grew into
a positive aspect of their relationship well worth considering.Her Lunar imagination quickly sparks the flame of his Martian sexuality,real cash conflict may begin, when she mentionsThe Farmer's Almanac, or the evening paper. It may be the Full Moon.few.
A Ram is nearly always enthusiastic about approaching fatherhood, and
she'll adore this quality in him. But after the bundles of joy grow out of their
booties into Buster Browns, they may begin pulling their parenthood wagon in
opposite directions. He believes in teaching the youngsters to be independent.
Although he can be bossy and demanding with them, his general inclination is to
give them lots of room to grow in. She takes motherhood seriously, and I mean
very seriously. She'll closely scrutinize their food, clothing, romances, careers
and health. They'll be stuffed with pea soup, cuddled, coddled and watched
over - all done in a spirit of friendly persuasion, of course. Mama knows what's
best, what's right to eat and wear, who's wrong to love and marry. All this couldlead to his accusing her of smothering their individualities - and to her accusyou want to see."
ing him of being too harsh, and too detached, by turns. The offspring may feel
they're being slowly squashed between two cement walls, at times. Compromise
in child raising is a must, or this relationship will crack irreparably.
The Ram's ability to give and receive love depends upon his image of himself
as the strong one. He needs constant freedom of expression and action. His
woman must have absolute faith in his ability to move mountains. Otherwise,
his frustrated emotions may form strange neurotic patterns, turning him from a
courageous Ram into a meek, unhappy sheep. Like being under a witch's hex.
She should never remind him that she is better than he at juggling the bank balance
(even if she is) - or anything else that may cut sharply into his masculinity.
If she refrains from tossing wet blankets on his dreams, he'll stay close to
home, contentedly. If she allows him to lead the parade, without dampening his
hopes, he'll be able to make her mountains of secret worries and fears disappear
forever. But there's always the possibility that her despairing silences, sulky
temper and occasional touches of hysteria will drive him right up the side of her
money-papered walls, and out of the house - and that his rash words and impulsive
behavior will bring her watery nature to a boil, until it sloshes over and
drowns his incentive.
When she's weeping, and he doesn't know why, he shouldn't storm out of
the room impatiently. He should take her in his arms, and lullaby her with
tender reassurances, to stem the tides of fear and loneliness rising in her, whispering
softly, "Please don't cry, and don't worry. Everyone loves you because
you're so smart and so pretty, and you tell funny stories. Besides, we're almost
sure to be rich someday. And as for me, I love you even more than other people
do, and that's really a bunch. You don't have to offer to do the neighbor's laundry.
We're not quite that poverty-stricken, and we never will be. Now, I want
you to wash your face, brush your hair, blow your nose, and get dressed in something
beautiful, because I'm going to take you out to dinner." He should then
mention the name of the most expensive, exclusive restaurant in town. She'll
stop sniffling right away.
"All nine courses - including the dessert tray?" she'll ask, then, tentatively,
her eyes beginning to sparkle.
"Yes, darling, all nine courses, including the dessert tray .. and afterwards,
we'll go to a movie, whichever one
That last promise ought to do it. It may be the first time in years the
thoughtlessly selfish Ram has allowed her to choose which film to see .. or anythingelse.
and his enthusiastic, idealistic lovemaking can pull her out of her bashful (or
snappy) shell into a beautiful fulfillment of latent passion. There's an affectionate
quality in the Aries approach to sex that may reach a part of her nature
which has timidly hidden itself behind her crazy, Looney Bird laughter until the
right man came along to find it. Unfortunately, however, this woman's ingrained
sense of Cancerian practicality soon tells her that "man can't live with
hyacinths alone - he needs bread." (Cancer sometimes has a way of twisting
truisms around, or reversing them, to accent the negative, and eliminate the
positive.) That's when the
money in the middle of some romantic interlude, just as the two of them are
about to become "one." Suddenly, sexual closeness is replaced by an emotional
Any relationship between Aries and Cancer is usually subjected to a generous
sprinkling of fights over money - how to obtain it, and how to dispose of it.
He's extravagant, she's thrifty. At least, she's normally economical, until she
spins into one of her many moods, triggered by the phases of the Moon, and indulges
herself in a buying spree of feminine frivolities to boost her sagging ego.
Most other times, however, she's a little reluctant to part with cash, to put it
If they manage to overcome the sensitive point of finances, through mutual
give-and-take, Aries and Cancer possess the potential of building some solid
dream castles together, especially if there's a trine, sextile or conjunction between
his Sun and her Moon, or vice versa. Her combination of creative flights
of fancy and a common sense attitude about cash (an odd contradiction in Cancerians)
coupled with his audacity and Mars determination, will usually give
this Sun Sign couple immunity from the need to apply for Government Welfare.
Still, the problems aren't over. Her moods keep popping up to plague them.
He may fail to comprehend the delicacy of her emotional needs and be completely
baffled by her changing moods. Perception is not an Aries strong point.
It can throw him into a fit of perplexity. What could he have done wrong?
(Nothing. I keep telling you, it's the Moon.) Only moments ago, she was skipping
around like a dodo bird chattering and giggling and humming a tune, feeding
the kitten soybean cakes - all smiles. And now, tears. What happened?
Or it may be that her feelings have been bruised by something he didn't even realize
he said. Perhaps he failed to notice her new dress, or forgot to tell her how
delicious her carrot casserole was. Ever since childhood, this girl has feared that
no one loved her. He'll have to gently teach her that the best way to get love -
is to give love. (This won't be easy, since it's a lesson he desperately needs to
learn himself.) The Aries man should remember that the way to keep a Moon
Maiden happy is to be sure she always receives lots of love, lots of food and lots
of money. She's not greedy, she's just security-hungry, and that's not the same
thing at all. I left out something. If she's a typical Lunar lady, add to the list -
lots of babies. Well, at least aseems helpless. We'll take that up